Choice 1. Ask or Asking with Tell or Telling

In a normal non-play setting and dealing with someone not your boss or employee and not a friend or relative and you need something that you believe that they can provide:

1. Do you ask them for it or do tell them you need it? Note that a sincere “Please” is an “Ask” while a courteous “Please”, especially coming at the end of the statement, is “Tell”.

Ask or Asking

Tell or Telling

More on the initial instruction provided in bold above – We all know that when we play, we are acting differently to some degree that varies from play situation to play situation. What is sought from you is an answer devoid of any playing on your part. Thus, you are asked to provide a non-play answer. The second part of the statement, “ dealing with someone not your boss or employee and not a friend or relative.” is again about removing “acting” your answer. As we become members of a family or develop new friendships or create a relationship involving deference to another as in boss or employee, teacher or student, etc. we assume a particular role. It is answers about your behavior not influenced by when you are acting or playing a particular role that is being sought.